Signing Off For The Last Time

I love the fall. It marks the end of the activities of summer and the beginning of preparing for winter. We have beautiful fall colors this year. Maybe we’re just appreciating them more than we have in the past. I think we’re appreciating a lot of things more than we have in the past. Like the beginning of fall, we’re also experiencing an end and a beginning.

The week went fast. They always do. Brian reconnected with friends and Lu and I continued to adjust. Lindsey, Jason, and Ethan came over on Saturday afternoon so we had a nice time together before he headed back. We didn’t talk a lot about Afghanistan. It was more important to take a break and get away from it for awhile. We saw the movies Brian made and some of the pictures he took over the past seven months. We significantly underestimated how much it actually sucked and how bad the conditions were. That’s just as well. As I’ve said before, I’m glad we didn’t know a lot of the things. (Just as an FYI Brian and his group completed over 35 missions outside the wire while they were in Afghanistan, ran numerous patrols and recon, and provided security for the EOD guys on several occasions. He received the Navy/Marine Commendation Medal for his leadership and efforts- the write-up recommending him for this medal is simply incredible.)

Some of the Pictures Brian Took

Firefight

in

Marjah

On Patrol

Big Gun

Jumping the

Canals

Finding IEDs

Everywhere

Taking Brian to the airport to return to Pendleton was easier this time. This was the last time we’ll have to do it. Brian will be finishing up the last two months attending classes and basically beginning to check-out of the Marines. He will still have 2 years in the reserve but doesn’t expect to be activated again. He has served well.

I spent some time reviewing the posts I’ve made over the past two years. They brought back a lot of memories- a lot of emotions- and an even a greater appreciation for the little things we tend to take for granted when we get wrapped up in the hectic schedules of our daily lives. I can assure you, Lu and I will never forget this. We hope to take what we’ve learned and do whatever we can to help others going through similar experiences. I also feel some responsibility to carry-on the legacies of some of those who sacrificed everything by doing what our country asked them to do.

I still believe our presence in Afghanistan is necessary. However, my perspective has changed after going through this. The American public’s support for the effort has deteriorated and I am not at all confident in the political leadership exhibited by either side (Republican or Democrat). The reality is if Afghanistan falls and reverts back to Taliban rule the whole game in the Middle East may change- the nuclear option will certainly be more likely and the likelihood of another attack on our own soil increases. We may have to go back- just under different circumstances.

However, as long as Americans (not just the politicians) understand the real risks and still decide it's better to get out- I now think we should bring our men and women home. The sacrifices we are asking these men and women (and their families) to make no longer make sense unless our country is 100% behind the effort. We aren’t there today. There is no doubt that America supports our troops- America just doesn’t support the effort itself. I think you need both to be worth the sacrifices that are being made.

Just needed to get that out there

Once again, Lu and I want to thank all family and friends for your prayers and support. We will continue to adjust not only to having Brian safely home from Afghanistan but to prepare for his exit from the Marines. We can’t even begin to describe the pride we feel when we reflect on what he has accomplished- as a Marine, a son, a brother, and as a man. We will continue to pray for those still serving and will always remember those making the ultimate sacrifice for our country. We will always remain humbled by their commitment.

Brian plans to drive his truck (with his motorcycle in the back) from Camp Pendleton to Minnesota sometime in December to make the journey home. A couple of his buddies told him they would make the trip with him. If they don’t, I told him I’d do it. What a wonderful way to see the country, reflect a little, and appreciate some time together on the road. A Road Trip- I think another Story may be on the horizon.

God Bless and Signing Off

Semper Fi

Together Again

Greetings,

OK, I couldn’t stop the blog just yet. The most important part of this whole deployment is just now taking place and I have to make sure it’s also documented as part of this journey. This is a “family post”; no deep insights, no politics, and no military discussions. It’s just about having your family together again and appreciating the many blessings we have.

To be perfectly honest, Lu and I have had a tough time adjusting. Even after welcoming Brian home to Camp Pendleton two weeks ago it still hasn’t seemed real. When we talked to Brian on the phone over the past week it’s hard to not continue to picture him talking to us from a gun turret in Afghanistan instead of California. For the past seven months the gun turret was the reality.

Hopefully, the next week will help all of us adjust to the new normal- whatever that is.

Brian came home on Saturday. The 30-day post-deployment leave-block for those just returning started on Thursday. He’s just going to take a week now and save the rest of his days so he can head home permanently in late November or early December. His enlistment ends on December 22 but he’ll use his saved days and go on terminal leave and finish his time here at home.

We met him at the airport with our “Welcome Home Marine” banner. Lu lined the yard with little American flags. Even though Brian can do without it, we wanted everyone to know that our Marine was home.

Brian was finally able to meet his nephew/godson (Ethan was wearing cammie pants and a “Welcome Home Uncle Brian” marine t-shirt). It didn’t take them very long to connect and it was a beautiful thing to watch. It was wonderful to just have all of us together in one room again. Lu made her traditional spaghetti dinner and the prayers before the meal had a very special meaning for all of us. Lu and I had to wipe away the tears on a couple of occasions.

Brian plans on relaxing this week. We all know it’s going to take a lot longer than a couple of weeks to comprehend and adjust to what he has been through over the past seven months. As we have learned to do very well over the past four years, we’ll just take it one day at a time. We’re going to enjoy the time we have together and help him in whatever way we can. It’s just nice to finally be together and not be thinking about another deployment just around the corner. This is a much nicer feeling.




A Patriotic
Ethan

A Very Proud

Sister

Finally!!!!

A Kiss

For

Uncle Brian

Semper Fi

Adjusting- It May Take Awhile

The fog is only now beginning to clear. Lu and I had done such a good job of not jumping ahead to the finish line it has taken awhile to accept the fact that Brian is finally home. The feeling of relief is impossible to describe. We’re smiling more. I know we felt a huge feeling of relief when Brian returned from Iraq last year, but this one was different. This time we had a much better idea that the situations he was dealing with and the environment he was living in were hell - there just wasn’t a damned thing we could do about it. That made it a lot tougher. We lived each day by the saying that “it’s not over 'til it’s over”- we wouldn’t believe he was actually home until we saw his face.

Seeing Brian get out of that truck was simply a beautiful experience. He’s lost about 25 pounds (which he didn’t have to begin with) but still looks just great. It was wonderful to be together and meet some of the people in his life we had heard him only talk about before. He’s got some good friends out there. It was also very cool to meet the marines serving under Brian in Afghanistan. Each one independently told us what an honor it was to work under him. We were pretty proud parents. Everyone seemed to know “Corporal Z.”



Playing With
Dad Again
(Shawn- One of
Brian's Marines)

We spent a wonderful couple of days together. On Tuesday Brian accomplished another one of his goals by buying his truck. I still couldn’t believe he wanted to buy a truck the day after he returned to the United

States. This was all part of the plan he sketched out while in Afghanistan. He said, “You have to focus on anything to escape the reality of whereyou are while you’re there.” We learned awhile back that when you are a Marine, you complete what you plan.

A Very Relieved

Mom

Brian may be coming home for a few days next week to finally meet his nephew/Godson. His “active duty” contract with the Marines is over in late December but he’s planning on driving home from California in late November or early December and will complete the rest of his time from Minnesota. It will be good to have him home. The holidays are going to be a lot more fun this year. I’ll continue to post stuff out here periodically (therapy) and will post some of the dates and other general updates as they get finalized.

We still can’t believe the four years with 19 months of deployments, the schools, the training demands, boot camp, and all of the emotions that come with being a military family today are coming to a close. I know Lu and I are ending the journey a lot different people than when we began. I don’t plan on stopping here and will be exploring other ways to stay involved. We’ve witnessed some pretty amazing things and have met some pretty amazing people along this journey. I hope in some way I can help carry-on the legacies of those who didn’t make it this far- they have had a huge impact on my life and taught me some big lessons. One of the biggest lessons is realizing it’s not the length of time that you spend on this earth that is important, it’s what you do with the time you are here that really matters.

I’ll also continue to remember the families and loved ones of those now deployed who are going through exactly the same thing we’ve been through. Take my word; it’s not easy. They will be in my thoughts and prayers until all of our men and women are back home.

I have no doubt in my mind that God had a significant hand in getting Brian safely home to us. Brian told us that on a number of occasions over there “the prayers must have worked.” I'm glad we didn't know some of the specifics until he was home. I also have no doubt in my mind that God helped Lu and I through some of the rougher parts. I know we wouldn’t have had the courage to face them alone- we got a lot of help along the way. I have a pretty big debt to repay.

I cannot formally end this portion without thanking the family and friends who supported Brian, his Marines, and all of us during the last four years. You cannot believe how much you have touched our lives. Brian showed me the laminated pictures of family and friends he carried in his notebook (which he carried everywhere) to remind him of what he was doing all of this for- you all mean a lot to him as well.

Another big lesson to remember: Family is important- never forget it (hug your parents, kids, and grandkids a lot).

We live in a remarkable country. Especially after hearing a little about the cultures and ways of life in Iraq and Afghanistan I appreciate it even more. So, when I start to get a little discouraged with the stupidity and pettiness we experience each day, I’m going to remember what we’ve witnessed over these past four years. I’ll remember the courage, the commitment, and sacrifice of those who are protecting our freedom as a reminder that there are always good people all around doing some very good things for something beyond themselves. They are out there. We’ve seen them.

It’s been an honor to know them- and the most important one to us is finally home.

Semper Fi

WELCOME HOME MARINE- We're Very Proud; And A Job Well Done !!!!

They changed the time on us again- this time they moved it up 8 hours. No need to write anything. The pictures say it all.

Stand Down
Marines
Well Done

A Very Proud

Father

Semper Fi

Just Waiting

Greetings

I thought I would post an update just to let folks know what’s going on. I’ll post pictures and updates once Brian gets here. We just don’t know when it’s going to be.

What started as a Friday arrival, moved to Sunday, moved to Monday morning, and now we aren’t sure when it’s going to be. I just got off the phone (Sunday afternoon) with the Family Readiness Officer for the 1st Intelligence Battalion and was notified of the most recent change. It may be Monday night now but we aren’t really sure. Like this entire deployment, we just need to keep taking it one step at a time- I have to admit; it’s getting tougher.

Lu and I arrived in San Diego on Saturday (thinking we would be seeing Brian on Sunday). We’ve made the best of our time here but had hoped to be spending this time with Brian. Saying we're disappointed is an understatement. We keep reminding ourselves that the main thing is that he is on his way home. We just don’t when he’ll get here.






Making The Best
of Waiting

Keep the positive thoughts flowing west. We'll let you know when we know more.

Semper Fi

Just Another Anxious Weekend

We had not talked to Brian in about a week so we really didn’t know what was going on. Was he starting his journey home? Did we need to continue to worry? Was there any update on the time-frames? We were up north for the holiday so kept our cell phones close and I became a little obsessed with checking my e-mail to see if I had received any updates. No word all weekend.

We come to find out he had left a message on our phone at home and Lu got it when she came home Monday night- the message: He’s moved his guys to the rear and he’s going to be starting the journey home. We’re still confirming the dates and we have to adjust our travel schedule to see what works. We’ll post more specifics when we can. The big thing for us is that he is out of the front lines and starting the process of getting home.

You would think we would have become used to all of this by now- but Lu and I let out a huge sigh of relief. We’re a little exhausted.

During this deployment, Brian has grown to admire the ordinance technicians who look for and disarm the IEDs that are a part of everyday life over there. These special marines provided a lot of support to Brian and his marines and even let them rest in their air conditioned tent when they were going through the air conditioning fiasco a few months ago. Brian’s group provided security for them on occasion when they were “doing their thing.” He calls them “really smart mother_______s”

When we talked to him last week he told us they just lost two of their guys to IEDs so it was a little rough (also adding to our anxiousness over the weekend). One of these heroes was from Pine City, Minnesota.

This one hit pretty close to home.

Master Sergeant Daniel Fedder was doing what he loved. While we can’t even begin to comprehend the level of his sacrifice, he was (I heard it again) just doing his job. He left behind his wife and three young children. At his memorial his thirteen year old daughter read a beautiful tribute to her dad, and through her tears, told him goodbye. There wasn’t a dry-eye in the place.

The other hero was GSgt Floyd Holley from Casselberry, Florida. He was planning on returning home from Afghanistan in November for the birth of his first child.




MSgt Daniel Fedder

Pine City says farewell

I don’t write these things to try to create tears. As I’ve said before, I share them because it is reality. I share them because I continue to be in awe of the character exhibited by those who serve and I am also simply amazed by the strength of the loved ones left behind. I share them because while it is certainly cathartic for me, these are stories others should hear especially with where we are as a country. We all need to sacrifice a little today. These heroes have sacrificed a lot.

While we are thankful for nearing the end of one part of the journey we also realize we are so blessed with the beginning of another. Lindsey, Jason, and Ethan spent the Labor Day weekend with us at the cabin. Ethan grows more every time we see him and is developing his own unique personality. Ethan has made all of this a little easier for us. And, it’s always fun to just get together as a family.



Alot To Explore

Infectious
Smile

So, we’re getting closer. Once again, thanks to all for your thoughts and prayers. Even though Brian is now starting his journey home after a job well done I know we are not finished. We’ll just move into the next phase and continue to support these men and women who know what real sacrifice is all about in any way we can.

Semper Fi

Even the Best Laid Plans. . . .

I consider myself a pretty decent “planner.” I tend to try to anticipate all possibilities with any specific situation and then plan accordingly. I probably overdo it in some areas and don't plan enough in others. Planning helps keep things in perspective. Needless to say, for someone who likes to anticipate and plan- these last four years have been quite the challenge.

We thought we had some “dates.” Plane tickets were bought, a car was reserved, and hotel reservations were made. The exercise of putting the trip together was a challenge in itself. Was the finish line really that close?

Well, things changed last week. At this point, we aren’t sure what our “dates” really are. I can’t go into details- suffice it to say we’re on hold until we hear otherwise (we aren’t cancelling/changing our original schedule just yet, we just need to wait).

Lu and I are doing ok. We’re naturally tired and frustrated but that doesn’t even compare to the frustration that the guys 7,000 miles away must be feeling. So we’re trying to suck-it-up. We told Brian we would adjust to whatever happens. As we've said throughout this journey, we still have to stay positive and take it just one day at a time. The most important thing is that he and his buddies return to us safe. The rest is irrelevant.

Just posting some of my favorite “older” pictures of Brian at Camp Pendleton (I believe these were when he was at the School of Infantry- seems like a lifetime ago.)



Kicking Down Doors And
Big Guns
Brian is On The Right

A New Marine

In The Field

As things become clearer we will certainly let you know. Just keep the positive thoughts and prayers flowing to Afghanistan- and hopefully we’ll hear something soon.

Semper Fi

"Almost There!"

We’re now at the part of the marathon where those lining the streets start to yell, “You’re almost there.” You know the intentions are sincere but you also know you’ve got more miles to go. You can’t let yourself focus on the finish-line just yet. In spite of the physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion you just keep putting one foot in front of the other and taking each mile one at a time.

As I’ve mentioned before, Brian has been wonderful keeping connected through this deployment. Many times we talk to him when he is on “watch.” When he’s on watch he’s up all night and sometimes it’s 2 or 3 a.m. Afghani time when he calls. That was the case last week. He’s sounding good and doing an unbelievable job staying focused and helping his team stay focused as well. I can’t begin to comprehend the mental and emotional exhaustion they must be feeling right now. It has cooled down to about 107 during the day and around 80 at night and the air conditioner continues to run full-bore 24/7.

I’m posting another picture of the guys when they arrived in Afghanistan over 6 months ago. In some ways it seems like an eternity, in others it seems like yesterday. I remember taking Brian to the airport last February. While all those trips suck, that one sucked more than the others. As I watched him walk down the jet-way and disappear from sight I wondered what the next seven months had in store for all of us. The Marine offensive in Marjah was just getting underway and the pace of the activity in Afghanistan overall was increasing. He was heading right into the middle of it. I knew this one was going to be different. I just didn’t know how different.

The situation we were facing in Marjah back in February (and Afghanistan generally) reminded me of what I had heard and read about Fallujah (and Iraq generally) during the very difficult period in the war in Iraq. Our country was not optimistic. We lost many young heroes just after the surge in Iraq. I knew there would be difficult times during this period in Afghanistan as well. You try not to focus on it- but it’s reality.

Last week the U.S. Army 4th Stryker Brigade, 2nd Infantry was the last combat group to leave Iraq. Please remember that while the media and politicians have been focusing on the exit of the last formal “combat team” there are over 50,000 Americans still remaining. While the focus of those remaining will be different, these Americans will still carry guns, they will still be attacked by insurgents and IEDs, and, yes, there will still be casualties. Iraq is still not safe for our troops.

However, the final outcome in Iraq now lies in the hands of the Iraqi people. This is a tremendous milestone in Iraq and a tribute to over 4000 Americans who sacrificed everything to even make this milestone possible (I’m not ignoring the efforts of the other countries involved- but let’s be honest, the United States has carried the ball on this one).

Can the same thing happen in Afghanistan? Back in February I wasn’t so sure. Six months later I’m more optimistic that with the right military leadership we can at least help set the stage. It hasn’t been pretty but progress has been made. And, just like in Iraq, it will ultimately be up to the Afghani people to decide the direction they want their country to take. The direction they choose can have a significant impact on the stability of the region and on the national security of our own country. I hope they choose their direction wisely.

I promise I will post more specifics and details concerning Brian’s deployment schedule when I am able. I have a ton of things I would love to communicate- but just can’t until we’re further down the road.

Thanks again for all of your prayers and support; just a while longer.

Semper Fi

One Day At A Time

We just have to take it a day at a time. I know Brian is trying to do the same on the other end. We talked to him this past week and he sounds good. I can’t post a lot of the items we talked about but suffice it to say- the marines are ready to call it a day. They have served well. It’s easy to start jumping ahead to the finish-line right about now but Lu and I try to keep pushing ourselves back to “one day at a time.” Sometimes it’s not so easy.

I have to admit, there have been many times throughout this experience that I have wondered where all of this is heading. It didn’t seem like what was being communicated about this war (if anything) fit with what I would see and hear. Many times I honestly haven't known who was leading the effort. While I thought some clarity was provided by President Obama during his West Point Address in December, 2009, our media and politicians quickly ripped any clarity apart. It wasn’t until the Rolling Stone adventure involving General Stanley McCrystal transpired that my inclinations of confusion and frustration became real.

I watched the NBC interview with General Patreaus. I think I learned (at least on a very broad level) more about the goals, the situation, and the strategy of what we’re doing there in that hour than I had learned over the past 7 months. Patreaus manages the media- McCrystal was a victim of it. General Patreaus certainly understands the frustration the country is feeling with a war that has lasted for 9 years. Many Americans have made tremendous sacrifices in the effort along the way. He has not forgotten why the war was started in the first place and what the results would be if we left Afghanistan today. Even though over 60% of Americans are understandably not all that optimistic at this point, he realizes this is not simply an “Afghanistan issue” but an issue of stability for this important region in the Middle East. And, even though the media and politicians continue to focus primarily on the “July, 2011” exit date- he is focused on “doing his job” and leaving the politics to others. He is informed by the context of the politics but “not driven by it.”

Once again, I am feeling a little more encouraged. Finally, I feel there is someone in charge that will take control of both the military and civilian aspects of the mission and make them work together. For all of the soldiers, marines, and loved ones who have already sacrificed so much- it’s about time.

I’m lacking new photos from Afghanistan so am posting a picture of Brian after he graduated from boot camp four years ago- we’ve been through a lot, have learned a ton, and honestly believe we have become better and more engaged Americans as a result. Thanks Bug.





A New Marine
A World of Experience
In Four Years











And, Ethan continues to be a joy for all of us. Lindsey, Jason, and Ethan stopped over last week for a visit. These visits always make the wait to get Brian home a little easier.

Lu And Ethan

Makes It All Worthwhile

We'll certainly keep you posted as we know (and can communicate) specifics and details. Thanks again for your support and prayers.

Semper Fi

Still Remembering After 65 Years

We’re in a sort of “hold pattern” right now. We’re well over 20 miles, but still have to just take it one mile at a time. We can’t see the finish line yet- all we know is that with each day we’re getting closer.

We talked to Brian this week and he’s been staying much more active than we would like. Lu and I have made our views very clear but he can’t listen to his parents on this one. He has to “do his job.” As always, it’s good to hear his voice and we’ll just need to keep praying harder.

We continue to be amazed by what these men and women are doing for us. With each day we grow even more appreciative of the sacrifices being made every day to carry out a very complex and dangerous mission. I think our country appreciates the sacrifices to a certain extent; but doesn’t really have a clue of all that is involved. Most just think about it occasionally- usually when something comes up on one of the news channels.

A friend of mine sent me a beautiful story of the small town of Pilsen in the Czech Republic. This little community adores America, the American soldier, and continues to appreciate the sacrifices that were made on its behalf. Pilsen was liberated from the Nazis by General Patton 65 years ago. Every 5 years since, Pilsen has held a Liberation Celebration to honor its liberation, America, and the American soldier.

Pilsen is also the crash site of Lt. Virgil P. Kirkham, the last recorded American pilot killed in Europe during World War II. Lt. Kirkham was flying his 82nd mission (and one he volunteered to go on). He was only 20 years old when he died.

A young 14 year old Czech girl, Zdenka Sladkova, witnessed the crash of Lt. Kirkham’s P-47 Thunderbolt and was so moved by his sacrifice that she made a vow to care for his memory. For 65 straight years (and now 79 years old) she has assumed the responsibility to care for Virgil’s crash site and memorial created near her home.





Family Remembering
An American Hero
In the Czech Republic

Zdenka Sladkova

Keeping a 65 Year

Commitment To an

American Hero

These folks appreciate freedom- and know what it took to obtain it and keep it.

I’m posting some more Ethan pics from our time at the cabin last weekend.



I Still Like
The Shades

Some Great Teachers

We can’t thank everyone enough for your thoughts and especially your prayers. This one has been tougher than the other two- but we know your prayers have made a difference for Brian and for us.

Semper Fi

Making A Difference

By our best estimates we have passed the 22 mile marker of our marathon. As I’ve said before, the last six are the toughest and we’ve got four more miles to go. But, we’re getting closer and we’ll gut it out to the finish line.

We talked with Brian this past week and from the sounds of it the Marines are staying very busy. As you know, we don’t talk about the details but he continues to sound good- much better since they got the air conditioner. They have had a few sandstorms to contend with and the brutal heat of the summer may be letting up just a little (maybe 110 degrees as a high). I’m sure they are ready to get out of there- we’re all ready for them to get out of there. They have done more than their share.

While this whole journey has been a challenge for Lu and I, Ethan’s arrival has made it a little easier. We still can’t get our heads around the whole “grandparents” thing (we will eventually) but we have really enjoyed watching him grow and watching Lindsey and Jason become the parents that they are. They have been sending Brian pictures of Ethan and I’ve tried to keep him updated with this blog. Lindsey made Ethan a book full of uncle-Brian pictures so even though he’s thousands of miles away right now- they have already been introduced in a very special way.

Lindsey, Ethan, and Jason joined us up north this past weekend and Ethan had his first real experience with the water. Here are a few pictures from the weekend.





A Very Big
Bathtub
July, 2010

Cool Shades

July, 2010

When I talked to Brian last week he said something to me on the phone that I’ve been thinking a lot about lately. A couple weeks ago I posted some pictures of Brian with some of the Afghani kids. (I’m posting the high-five picture again because I think it’s pretty cool). He told me when he looked at that picture after he had returned to the base he realized something. He thought about the reasons he joined the Marines four years ago- (and there were several). One of the reasons was to share the blessings (my word) he felt he has received with those less fortunate than he. He told me that as he looked at the picture with that little boy he realized he “had accomplished one of his goals.” These children live in complete poverty and have to worry about being blown up every time they walk outside. That’s the reality of their life. Some will say “that’s the breaks” and it’s none of our business to be involved. I think Brian (and many of those serving with him) would say he was at least doing his part to make a little change in lives that could use a little changing- and perhaps saving lives along the way.


There is no doubt, the war is brutal. The politics behind the war (and everything else for that matter) is becoming brutal as well. As I thought about the lesson Brian taught me, I realized I can either sit on the sidelines and complain, or get involved and do my part to help change what needs changing. You don’t need to be 7,000 miles away in a war zone to have a positive impact on somebody’s life. You just need the heart and the passion to make it happen. I know it’s time I got off my ass to do my part as well.

Semper Fi

An Air Conditioner and WikiLeaks

First and most important, the guys finally got an air conditioner!!! As Brian communicated to many of you through his e-mail he was finally able to get his first real rest in several months. He told us when they first hooked it up he just kept walking in and out of the tent so he could keep experiencing the feeling of the cool air when coming in from 130+ degree heat. We talked to him this week and he sounds good- he actually sounds different now that he can get some rest (we notice that stuff). The food situation still sucks but they are doing what they can to get by. As we all know, things remain very active over there and can change very fast. He is keeping his guys very busy with an eye on the finish line- but remaining very focused on what he needs to do each day. All of us have to run this one all the way through the finish line.

Last month we had Rolling Stone providing us the status of the war in Afghanistan. This month we have WikiLeaks releasing over 75,000 classified Afghanistan war documents to the general public through the internet. This is not exactly what I had in mind when I hoped we would keep this war at the front our country’s thinking. I continue to be amazed by the sacrifices being made in this effort by many, many Americans. And, I continue to be amazed by many who are oblivious as well. I know Lu and I would have likely been on the oblivious side if we hadn’t experienced what we have experienced first-hand.

I am all for the protection of our First Amendment rights. But, I am also about protecting our country and protecting those we have asked to protect us. WikiLeaks released these documents based on their belief that “it is only when the people know the true plans and behavior of their governments that they can meaningfully choose to support them.” (from their web site). They are using the US Supreme Court’s decision related to the Pentagon Papers (Viet Nam) as a foundation of their actions, “only a free and unrestrained press can effectively expose deception in government.” (also from their web site).WikiLeaks has positioned their actions as a “public service.” While I agree with the fundamental premise of these beliefs, I think releasing these papers now is simply bullshit.

Those advocating to get out of Afghanistan will certainly step up the rhetoric. The uninformed (and there are many) will likely form their view and take positions simply based on the fact that this is new information for most of them.


For those who have been following this rather closely over the past two years, the talking points raised so far is not new information ; Pakistan working with the Taliban? Who couldn’t figure that one out; Iran is supporting the terrorists? Surprise, surprise.; Bin Laden involved in some of the decisions made in Afghanistan? No big revelation there; We have problems with the Afghan government? Give me a break.; Our soldiers were frustrated due to lack of resources? You put up with some of the crap these guys put up with and see if you wouldn’t be frustrated- but they carried out their mission none-the-less (and remember, this is all pre-2010); Some of the missions didn’t go well and some mistakes were made? No big surprise considering the limitations our troops had to deal with; Civilian casualties were higher than we have let on? Probably, considering the zero-tolerance policy we have had to live with. War crimes? Get a life- especially considering we’re engaging an enemy who has no rules.

We lost two Minnesota heroes in Afghanistan within a day of each other last week. Their funerals were last weekend. Specialist Matthew Johnson and 3 of his “combat buddies” were killed by a manually detonated IED in Zabul Province. His father said, “Matthew knew the risks, but he knew he needed to serve anyway. He knew he had to take the war to the cowards before the cowards brought the war to us.” First Lieutenant Chris Goeke and two others were killed when the Taliban attacked their base near Kandahar city. Chris graduated from West Point, had been married only 18 months, taught Sunday school, and was an inspiration to many. He too knew the risks, but was committed to something bigger than himself.

1st Lt Christopher Goeke

Apple Valley, Minnesota

KIA Kandahar City

7-13-10

Spc Mattew Johnson
Maplewood, Minnesota
KIA Zabul Province
7-14-10

You can bet the enemy is scouring over the 75,000 (probably soon-to-be 90,000) documents to find anything they might not have known before. Our media channels will come up with their own spin- but will most likely only confirm what we should have known all along if we had been half-way listening. In my opinion, we are simply educating the enemy unnecessarily by releasing these classified documents and creating further conflict in an already conflicted situation. I just don’t get it.

I’m all for free speech and keeping government transparent and honest. But, I’d rather take my direction from people like Matthew Johnson and Chris Goeke than from an internet company started by a computer hacker getting his information from an unknown source with unknown motivations. I hope others take the time to inform themselves of all of the facts and take into consideration what is at stake before jumping on board with one side or the other. Unfortunately, our media today (including WikiLeaks) tends to create “Shirley Sharrod moments”. We shoot first and ask questions later. I hope public opinion doesn’t just do the same.

We seem to forget that Afghanistan was the base of the attack that killed 3000 Americans on our own soil and it could happen again. That’s a little different than Viet Nam.

Semper Fi

Remembering the Children

When I talked to Brian earlier in the week he said, “I read the blog- you sounded pissed.” I was. I’m better now. The feelings are still there, I just don’t need to write about them this week.

We did finally get some positive news from Afghanistan.

First, if all goes as planned the guys should have an air conditioner within the next few days. It doesn’t fix what they had to go through to get it- but at least they are going to be able to have a place to get comfortable and finally get some decent sleep. The “low” at night is around 90 degrees over there. You can’t sleep very well when you are drenched in sweat. This should make it a little more bearable. It’s about time.

Second, Brian, and his group were recognized by those further up the chain for their efforts and their accomplishments for doing what they do. We tell Brian how proud we are all the time. But, it only goes so far when it comes from your parents. A little positive news and recognition from your chain of command does wonders for morale when you are dealing with the conditions they have been facing and continue to face every day. You don’t hear positive stuff very much. We are very proud of all of them.

Brian sent us two beautiful pictures that put a human perspective on this whole thing. Sometimes it’s still hard to put my head around the fact that when we get a phone call, an e-mail, or a letter we’re communicating to our son in a war zone 7000 miles away. These marines are living in conditions most of us couldn’t tolerate- and they are carrying out a mission and risking their lives because that is their job. I am humbled every day just thinking of it.

And, when I think of Afghanistan I generally think of all the bad stuff; insurgents, IEDs, the Taliban, corrupt governments, drugs, and all the rest. Until he sent these pictures I hadn’t thought very much about the children who are caught in the middle of all of this. I don’t know if we’re ever going to change a culture that has been in existence for thousands of years. All of the military might in the world probably can't do that but we still have to protect our country. But, you know, being able to receive a smile from a child in the middle of all of the killing, the misery, and the poverty has to count for something.

These pictures are pretty cool.




Brian Getting A
"High Five"
Afghanistan, 2010

Brian Making A Friend
and Getting A Smile
In The Middle of Chaos

Afghanistan, 2010

Lindsey, Jason, and Ethan stopped over for a visit. Brian called while they were here to wish Lindsey a happy birthday. It’s wonderful to hear them talk and Brian can’t wait to get home and meet his nephew in-person. In the meantime Ethan “talked” to Uncle Brian on the phone and told him everything that is going on in his life right now. They are going to be buddies, I’m sure.

Lindsey Held The

Phone While
Ethan "talked"

to Uncle Brian

We’re nearing the 20 mile mark of our journey. We’ve come a long way and have six more to go- but we’ll get there. Keep the prayers and positive thoughts flowing to the amazing marines in Afghanistan. They appreciate them more than you know. So do we.

Semper Fi

Ticked Off and Tired

Greetings to all

Brian finally connected with us last week. If you can believe it, it’s gotten hotter- over 130 degrees each day. And they still don’t have an air conditioner to give them a break from the heat. The guys have worked out arrangements to steal some “cool air time” from some of the other units- but it’s not the same. As much respect as I have for our marines and military- this is inexcusable to me. But, the guys are trying to make do with what they have and trying their best to keep their attitudes up. We’re trying to do the same- but it still pisses us off.

We’re still on hold for sending packages and that will most likely not change. So, I’ve taken to increasing my prayers and sending some inspirational and motivational quotes periodically. Feel free to do the same- the guys can use them. I can’t wait to meet them when we welcome Brian home. Brian has already told us that we can meet the guys in his squad on the parade deck when they arrive- and then he doesn’t want to see them for a “long time.” You can imagine what it would be like to live together for 7 months in tight quarters, 130+ degrees, no air, limited food supply, and in a high-stress environment. We can certainly understand.

And, while Lu and I are holding our own we have our moments. Our tolerance for the opinions of the uninformed has grown quite short when it relates to Afghanistan. The election rhetoric has already become nauseating and we know it’s going to get worse. When I wrote my story earlier in the year I had hoped our country would be going down a different path by now. I had hoped that both sides (Republican and Democrat) could pull their heads out of their asses for a little while and work together to solve the many challenges we face as a country. I had hoped both sides would recognize they don’t have a monopoly on the right answers. I had hoped we would recognize that Afghanistan is not Defense Department budget item only tied to the now infamous July, 2011 "exit date" but is fundamental to protecting our own freedoms and preventing an event in the future that will be worse than 9-11. General McChrystal helped bring Afghanistan back to the front page for awhile through his Rolling Stone adventure, but in the other areas we still have a long ways to go.

So, when Michelle Bachmann (our own Minnesota Congresswoman) is recently quoted saying we are becoming a “nation of slaves” just to raise the already high emotional pitch of the country- I am offended. Regardless of how our current dysfunctional and polarized political process is characterized I would ask our politicians to remember the guys and gals who are risking their lives each and every day; and the men, women, and families who have made the ultimate sacrifice to protect our freedoms before trying to score political points by throwing out quotable quotes. These people know what patriotism, freedom, and sacrifice is all about. Talking points are cheap. Cheap talking points from politicians are worthless.

This isn’t about who is right and who is wrong any more. It’s about getting our sons and daughters home after completing the mission we have asked them to do. This is the time for both sides to quit taking political cheap-shots and start working together to do what’s right for the country while protecting the foundation laid out in the Constitution for its citizens. And I repeat, in my opinion neither side has a monopoly on being right.

We owe it to those serving our country who know what America really stands for and know what real sacrifice is all about.

What It's All About Anyway

Brodie and Ethan on
The Fourth of July
(With Megan and Michelle)

A Picture Ethan

Will Likely Want To

Destroy When Older

(Fourth of July)

Semper Fi

Thank You To Our Troops- Independence Day, 2010

Our Minnesota Vikings coach Brad Childress received a wonderful surprise during his visit to Afghanistan last week. Unbeknownst to him, the marines surprised him by including his son, Lance Corporal Andrew Childress in the lineup of marines greeting the NFL coaches when they arrived. He had no idea he would be seeing his son while he was there. Childress said, “It goes against every instinct a parent has, obviously, to see your child go into harm’s way. It’s tough. But, I am so proud of him and the man he has become.” We feel the same way.

Last year, Brian returned to the States from Iraq on the Fourth of July. The year before we were able to celebrate the Fourth with friends and family at the cabin just after Brian returned from his first deployment to the Middle East. This one was a little different. This Fourth of July we continue to do our best to support Brian and his squad as we progress through this deployment to Afghanistan. From my “marathon analogy” we’ve passed the 17 mile mark and have a little over 9 to go. We’ll get there- the finish line isn’t in sight yet, but we’re getting closer.
Many received a beautiful e-mail from Brian last week describing the feelings of those on the front lines about the politics and media back home concerning the war in Afghanistan. Each time we communicate our admiration for what he is are doing over there, Brian repeatedly tells us he is “just doing his job.” He is living his words. This has been the same message he has delivered to us for the past four years. It has never changed. I can tell you the challenges he and his squad have faced during this deployment have been unreal. As a father and mother we couldn’t be any more proud of what they have accomplished despite the obstacles. I wish more of the people back home possessed the same attitude and fortitude of these men and women. We’d be a much better country.

Lindsey, Jason, and Ethan joined us for some time at the cabin to celebrate the Fourth this year. We have been blessed by a wonderful family. Ethan is a beautiful little boy and we can’t wait for Brian to meet his nephew face-to-face in a few months.

Ethan Is Getting Ready

For Uncle Brian To Come Home

We were also able to spend a little time at Lake Ada with Uncle Brad and Aunt Peggy. Even though we were separated by 7000 miles- Brian was with us in our hearts and prayers. We all got together to wish him a “Happy and Safe Fourth.”




Be Well and Be Safe
We're Thinking Of You
See You Soon






The next Fourth of July Brian will be home with us and we’re looking forward to watching the fireworks from the porch of the cabin together. We may even have a little “drunken debauchery” on the boat like we did two years ago after Brian returned from his first deployment.

Everyone is invited. We think everybody deserves a Man Shot when we’re done.

Semper Fi

The Runaway General- A Father's Perspective

Greetings

Over the past 4 years Brian has repeatedly told us to not believe everything we watch on the news or read in the papers, internet, (or wherever else) when it comes to Iraq and Afghanistan. Lu simply doesn’t watch much of it at all- and I probably watch and read about it too much. It was pretty hard not to hear about Afghanistan with everything that transpired at the top this past week.

I have no idea what was going on in General McChrystal’s head to allow Rolling Stone magazine do what they did. But, as I look back on it today, maybe it was what we needed to kick our country in the ass and get engaged again (including the president and the civilian delegation that is part of this thing). I have to admit, I’m already starting to get a little tired of hearing the newly engaged arm chair quarterbacks suddenly have all the answers to solve the situation by using the talking points created by others instead of being informed themselves. From my humble perspective- (and I’ve said this before)-success in Afghanistan is a matter of national security for our country, it’s that simple. Leaving Afghanistan prematurely has huge risks. As the saying goes, “Just because someone leaves the movie, doesn’t mean it’s over.”

OD, Pasco, Z, and Nims

Arriving in Afghanistan

2010

When we talked to Brian this week he had briefly heard about the whole McChrystal event but not much about it. These guys don’t think about this stuff much- they are too busy doing their jobs and trying to stay as safe as they can while they try to achieve the mission our country has asked them to accomplish. We have asked them to live in conditions few of us would last a day- 130 degree heat (still with no air conditioning)- MREs for food (with care packages on hold)- minimal sleep- and doing their jobs- while confronting IEDs and insurgents every day. But, somehow they are holding it all together and making it work. I don’t know how- but they are doing it. That says something about the character of those we have serving our country. They don’t listen to the politics- thank God.

And, while its very easy to focus on all the negatives our troops are accomplishing some pretty amazing things despite the circumstances. Here’s a letter from an officer in Afghanistan talking about things you don’t hear very much about:

While I have the ear of the outside world I wanted to pass along the good news since I'm sure the media is only reporting the casualties and ugliness of war. I had a chance to visit a school in Marjah referred to as the Yellow School. 2 months ago it was one of the largest IED making factories in Marjah and a stronghold of the Taliban. The renovation and reconstruction of the school starts this week and soon children in the area will be able to go to school for the first time.

When you think about how short of a time period that is to go from IED factory and Taliban stronghold to a school to give the children hope of a better life it's amazing and something I'm proud to be part of. This is just one of many significant events that have occurred over the past few weeks that show the progress of the reconstruction and development of a war torn nation.

Thanks for your prayers and encouragement.

Semper Fidelis, "always faithful" to my God, my family, and my country.

Major John French
Engineer Officer, RCT-7
C Co Commander, 3rd CEB
Camp Dwyer, Afghanistan

Some very brave people are doing some very brave things to do the things we’re asking them to do each and every day. We would like to have our son out of harm’s way.

So, this is not the time for second-guessing decisions made in the past but to focus on the decisions we need to make in the future to succeed. To me, the mission and strategy have been clear (Obama’s 2009 West Point Address). I had just assumed everyone that needed to deliver on the strategy knew what it was and was delivering on their part of the bargain (besides just the military which has gone above-and-beyond). From the Rolling Stone article, that might not have been the case.

So, while article may have tarnished a career of a respected war hero it may have also been a wake-up call for the rest of us. If we’re going to do this- let’s do it right on all sides- not just the military. And, let’s let these guys do their jobs and protect themselves when they have to. To me, it’s time to pull together all of the pieces that are necessary to make this work- and give these heroes on the ground the strategies, resources, and support they need to get the job done. I pray we can stand together as a country to make it happen. I hope we don’t have to rely on Rolling Stone to find out if it’s not.

(Sorry Bug- I had to get that off my chest)

Semper Fi

Fifteen Down- Eleven To Go

A Fathers Day Card
From Afghanistan. . . . . .
PRICELESS!!!

What can I say? We couldn’t be any prouder of Brian and it was great to talk to him for a little while today. He had just returned from doing his thing but made the time to call and wish me a happy Fathers Day. He’s been “busy”, very busy. And, the heat continues to hit 120-130 degrees each day. Add 100 lbs of gear- and I can’t even imagine what it feels like. He is doing some amazing things and operating in ungodly circumstances over there. When I hear what he’s been dealing with- I realize my complaints and frustrations are trivial.

Many are asking us “how much longer?” As you know, we’ve learned not to plan for anything and are just taking things one day at a time. But, we do put “markers” out there. These markers help us to keep things in perspective and at least provide some semblance of a time-frame and keep us relatively sane. The situations change all the time so we’ve had to be flexible.

I’ve tried to connect where we’re at in the deployment to running a marathon. For anyone who has been insane enough to run one of these you know that the first 13 miles are relatively easy if you've completed just basic training. The runners are getting adjusted to the environment, their pace, and the adrenaline pumps you along.

Miles 13-20 get tougher. You’re now used to the environment and your body is starting to tell you to ease up a bit. You try to focus on each mile, take in a lot of fluids, and try to maintain the best positive mental attitude you can.

Miles 20-26 are the toughest. The end is in sight, but your physical and mental capacities are reaching their limits- this is where all of the miles of training really kick in (or if you’re like me and don’t train like you should- you have to suck it up big-time).

From the best estimates we’re using today- we’re at a little over 15 miles into the deployment. This is the tough part (even though the first 13 miles were not easy). We’re well over half-way and just need to continue to move forward. This is where we just need to focus on each day, maintain a good perspective, and do what we can to continue to support Brian and all of the others over there.

We’re doing ok as long as we take each mile one at a time.

We want to thank everyone who sent e-mails and wishes to Brian on his 23rd birthday last week. They meant a lot to him.

We also want to thank all of you who have been sending things. Considering the conditions they are living in, your efforts have made a huge difference. A special thanks to Vicki’s school in Amarillo as he received over 200 cards/letters from her students. Brian is going to try to answer some that provided e-mail or mailing addresses. He took a supply of the letters over to the chapel to allow others to share in the messages from home. Even though we're on hold for sending packages- e-mails and prayers are still welcome.

I hope everyone had a good day. If there is one thing we’ve learned through all of this it’s that the connections you have with your family can keep you close no matter how many miles are in between.

Semper Fi